Every life has its challenges from the trivial to the profound. Facing adversity is what unites us as human beings.
So it's important to learn how to bounce back. Resilience is the quality that helps us adapt and move forward after trauma, tragedy, and even garden-variety stress.
Bill Baun, a man who devoted his life to wellness recently passed away. Two days before his death, he recorded this video in which he discusses resilience.
"It starts in the heart," he asserts, urging viewers to open their hearts to happiness and positivity.
It's hard sometimes to really, truly accept that we deserve happiness, but we all do. And allowing it to come into our hearts also allows it to be reflected out toward others, helping them find peace and happiness as well.
Living your values is another hallmark of Baun's beliefs. If every day we go into the world with a firm sense of exactly who we are and what is important to us, it's harder for the slings and arrows of daily life to inflict their wounds. Devote some time to reflecting on what your values are and how best to live them--it's time that will pay rich dividends in life satisfaction.
Letting yourself experience all the emotions good, bad, and ugly, that human beings can experience is also a part of building resilience. If we don't feel grief, fear, anxiety, sadness, it is hard to move past them. Acknowledging that we feel certain emotions--like fear, anger, or grief--can help us avoid making decisions based on these emotions.
Perhaps the simplest way to build emotional resilience is to take care of the physical plant. When you are under stress or feeling overwhelmed, that's when it's the most important to get enough sleep, eat plenty of fruits and vegetables, and try to be as physically active as possible. It's tempting o curl up with a bag of Chee-tos, but your mental health would rather you chose a kale salad.
Becoming a resilient person isn't something that happens over night. In weight lifting, you start small, maybe with 5 or 10 pounds weights. WIth time however, you get stronger and stronger and soon you're curling 50-pound dumbbells. It's the same with resilience. Practice developing it on the small stuff, so that when the big things come around, your resilience muscles will be trained enough to get you through.